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not tonight. was built for couples who want to understand each other better — without awkward conversations about spreadsheets.

Intimacy patterns in long-term relationships are deeply tied to stress, sleep, kids, schedules, and dozens of other factors most couples never think to connect. We built a simple tracker that surfaces those patterns automatically, backed by real data from real couples.

We believe data should work for your relationship — not create pressure or judgment. Every insight is framed around understanding and connection, not performance metrics.

All personal data is private and encrypted. Aggregate benchmarks only surface when a minimum sample size is reached, so no individual data is ever identifiable.